This post has been a long time coming and it has not been the easiest path either.
I have been writing Monograms and Manicures for just over four years now. If you have been reading you know by now that I am SO grateful for all the joy it has brought to my life over the past four years. I have met so many AMAZING women, many of whom I now consider my closest friends, and been connected with brands I would never have found otherwise. I also have been treated to numerous once-in-a-lifetime experiences. While I am beyond thankful for all of these things I would be lying to myself and to you my readers if I said blogging has not taken a toll on me. Quite frankly, I am just getting a little bit burnt out. Not only can it be time consuming, but it is incredibly easy to start to make your blog your life. In the past few months I have started to see a change in blogging. It seems like so many people are now being fulfilled by their blogs. While it is something that defines me, it is just that, a THING. It is not my everything or my entire life. I personally only want my blog to be a part or aspect of my life, but I do not want or need my world to revolve around it. While I LOVE sharing things with you I do not want to live my life for my blog. With that being said, after much thought and lots of prayer, I feel called to take a break from blogging.
This decision did not come easily for me. As I just said, I have gained SO much through blogging and have really enjoyed it. When I was praying I was SO hopeful that God would give me the answer I wanted...."Keep blogging, look at what you gain from it!" but that is just not that case. I feel strongly about what I need to do and so I am acting upon it. There is no one reason I am taking a break and I suppose my decision seems rather selfish, but I just want to "stop and smell the roses" for awhile. 2012 is turning out to be pretty busy and I have lots of commitments I really want to give my time and effort to. I will continue blogging through the end of May (I still have have some very fun posts scheduled until the 31st...think home tours, Starbucks, Friday Fives and maybe even a few more giveaways!!), but after that I am not sure how things will continue. Will I update once a week? Perhaps. Will the break be two weeks, two months or two years? I just do not know... Will I come back full time in September? Maybe, but who knows right now. I will likely continue to update my blog Facebook page every so often and I will still be on Twitter for the time being. A break, be it temporary or permanent, is what I need right now.
I hope you know how thankful I am for all of you and the joy to bring to me each and every day. Your comments and emails over the past four years have made me smile and laugh and your kindness has overwhelmed me. I have learned SO much through blogging, but look forward to what the future holds! I do not think this is the end, rather just a new beginning.
So family, friends and readers, that's a wrap!


72 comments:
Amen. I have noticed the trend myself. Good for you that you are keeping your priorities straight.
I enjoy reading your blog, and will miss doing so on a frequent basis. I look forward to the occasional update.
Also, thanks for sharing this out there. I've felt so guilty for neglecting my blog for so long this year, and I've clearly lost most of my readers from the hits/comments of late. I just had to take a step back and focus on the more important things in life.
Blessings to you!
Best of luck to you! I have enjoyed reading your blog over the years. Thank you for sharing a snip it of your life!
:) Beth
Even though I am a newer reader, I have really loved your blog. I hope that this break gives you some clarity, and that the Lord will really give you a peace about all of this! Thank you for sharing with all of us.
Oh Hopsy I am sure this was such a hard decision. You will be greatly missed but you have to follow your heart...best wishes with whatever you decide! xx
Thank you for the last 4 years of a snippet of your life.
Best of luck to you! I will miss your posts. I don't always comment, but I do regularly check your blog. I have learned so much from you and you are a very sweet person. :)
It totally understand your decision. I think it's easy for the blog to become all-consuming. I hope you will pop in every now and then. :)
Helen, I have really enjoyed reading your blog! I am deeply saddened that you will not be updating anymore. I feel like I know you personally. Thank you for being a role model for me! I am truly honored to have read this blog & share in a little part of lifes journey with you. I know the future holds lots of Lilly, plenty of monograms and manicures, & definitely a prince charming as preppy as you are! Take care!
Ivy
Dearest Hopsy,
This blog post truly made me want to frown at this news, but then your trademark sincerity made me smile. You are a role model of true-to-yourself blogging and have been such a mentor to me by how you have your blog. I know you are taking this break, however long, because it is the decision you have made to follow your heart. Know that there are so many of us who will miss your wonderful slices of life and inspiration and look forward to the next time we are graced with your online presence.
I completely understand and support you! I'll miss your updates and photos but know that I will find you one way or another (FB, Twitter, etc).
Cheers to a very well-deserved break!!
KK
You are very strong to listen to your heart and God's voice on this. Which is the hardest thing for me to say, because I adore your blog. There will be a Hopsy shaped hole on my reader. I hope you can take some time for yourself and honor your commitments during this break. I'll remember you in my prayers ;) Thank you for all the things you have taken a stand on over the years. I hope people (myself included) examine their own lives and ask where we should be focusing our efforts/energy. We will miss you!! xo
Hopsy, I understand where you are coming from. I had to stop posting daily because I realized that there were more important things going on in my life than sharing the latest craft or recipe. I will, however, miss reading your blog.. but am hopeful that you will still update your facebook and twitter. Thank you for all of the inspiration you have provided for so many lovely ladies around the world. You are such a wonderful role model for us!
Love,
Ashley
Best of luck! I've enjoyed reading your posts! I actually moved my blog to private yesterday(and by private I mean I'm the only reader) since it was taking up a great deal of time and energy that I need to spend elsewhere.
best wishes!
I will never forget seeing you for the first time on Martha Stewart; Lilly Pulitzer, cardi, pink Revas, yes m'ams, and hair to die for. I'll truly miss your blog but, the friendship is a keeper. Thanks for all the years of inspiration and sharing Hopsy...XXOO
What the caterpillar calls the end the rest of the world calls a butterfly.
~Lao Tzu~
Great decision! Work on finding a nice guy to spend you life with. The authors of Social Climber, The Company She Keeps and Monogram and Mart... have a great balance. Your blog is excellent but should not become your life.
Mrs. Prissy
I have always enjoyed reading your blog, it is my favorite! You will be missed very much. I completely understand your need for a break and wish you much happiness and relaxation that you so deserve. Enjoy taking time to smell the roses! God Bless. xx
You've been an inspiration to many in the blog world. I can certainly understand your need to take a break (temporarily or permanent). It's more work than meets the eye.
I wish you a bright future and, of course, will still keep up on FB (Laurie Tester) and Twitter (@LuluDaisy)
~Laurie
Good for you - blogging should be a pleasant PAST TIME for the average person. (I'm excluding Dooce and PW because you know...that is their job). I wish you luck in finding your next passion!
:( I will miss you. I rarely comment anymore, but always read. I know what you're saying. I also see a lot of negativity in blogging and it makes me want to say goodbye to it all.
Oh Hopsy, I *so* understand where you are. I am delighted for you that you are taking a break, but obviously sad I won't be able to read your posts. I hope it is restful and restorative, you are so very busy eliminating this from the "To Do" list should provide some of that much-needed "you time".
You speak to a bigger issue that I think is perplexing for a number of us who have blogged for several years now, I have even thought about a post on the topic of how the blogosphere has changed and its impact.
I send you big hugs and a smile, I know this had to be a tough decision, I am so happy for you that you're doing the best thing for Hopsy. :)
I completely understand where you are coming from. Follow your heart, and you'll be surprised at all you accomplish with that non-blogging free time!
xo
Wow. Well, I wish you the best. Your tone is so consistent, you've done such a great job. You should be proud.
Hopsy, I totally understand...sometimes you need breaks and some times a wrap is a wrap. I totally agree with you; your blog needs to be an accessory to your life, not guide it. We'll miss you, but your happiness and peace of mind should always be a priority! May God continue showering you with blessings!
xo,
Susana
www.akeytothearmoire.com
Will miss you.
One of my first and favorite blogs.
I will miss reading your blog everyday, it is certainly one of my favorites! Thank you for sharing as much as you have - I think I speak for everyone when I say that you made our days a little brighter, more creative and certainly more fun!
Thank you for the many happy times reading your posts. I will miss them.
May you be filled with the same comfort and joy that you have shared with me.
I will miss you dearly, but I fully understand. Hopsy, you truly are making the best decision for YOU and that is what matters the most. Best of luck my sweet blog friend. -xx
Know what? When it's time to come back you will. Maybe every now and then to keep us up to date on happenings. This was beautifully written and so very heartfelt. Come over to enter my jewelry giveaway, maybe you'll win and you will have something to wear on your arm to remember us by. xx's
I'm sure this was a very hard decision for you, but I am so happy you are doing what is best for you. Yours was the very first blog that I began reading, and I have enjoyed your pink and green posts ever since. Enjoy lots of Hopsy-time and keep smiling! Sending you big hugs! XOXO
Love reading but I totally understand! I took my blog private and stopped posting! I still love to read everyone else's blogs when I have time. I just didn't have the time for actual blogging! Hope you have a fabulous summer! Hopefully I'll catch up with you via twitter!
Hopsy, your blog was one of the first I started reading and I have always loved Monograms & Manicures! Your blog is so cute and always has the most interesting (and fun) posts. I will truly miss reading it. Enjoy your well-deserved blogging break!
SHF
thechroniclesofs.blogspot.com
Although I knew this was coming for a while now, I will miss you. I agree that blogging should just be one of many hobbies. My life is so busy and I use my blog as a way to keep a scrapbook for my kids. Otherwise, I'd never find the time to post. I wish you the very best, Hopsy and still hope to meet you someday when we come to our neck of the woods.
Kim
I have always enjoyed reading your positive words about life. You certainly live by them. I do know however, that blogging can take up alot of time. I now only blog once every two weeks, and it gives me time to "live" away from the computer. I totally understand. However, with that said, you will be missed. May God Bless you.
Hopsy, you are too precious and darling! Will miss your sweet, fun, inspirational and preppy blog posts, but totally understand. -Linda,ny
p.s. all the more reason for me to visit Dallas more often!
I am a newer follower and a pretty new blogger, a bit over a year but have to say everything you said to some degree I could relate to. This can be all consuming, and it can also be loads of fun but suddenly some days I look at the clock and wonder how the heck did it get to be 3pm and I haven't done "anything"! I have it much more under control now but I think the cue is when you feel this is an obligation and are no longer getting the joy or satisfaction out of it that you once were, you are wise to step back and see what happens. The few I know who did what you are doing ended up coming back sooner than later and I hope for all your readers, thats the case but you must listen to your heart and only continue if it feels right.
Either way..wishing you luck, much clarity as you have the time to ponder life and the direction you are going and most of all happiness and a lust for life in all you do!
H, I will miss your blog so much. It was one of the first blogs I ever read and I have enjoyed it so much over the years. I am glad to have you as a real life friend. Can't wait to see what you do next! Much Love, Kerry
Best of luck kiddo! You'll go far no doubt!
Following God's will for your life is honestly the best thing in the world for you to do. I hope this break gives you the renewal that you need and deserve. I wish you nothing but happiness. I follow you on Twitter and look forward to connecting to you more there. Take care of yourself and know that you will truly be missed in the blogsphere. xxx
Farrah (aka VintageWasp)
Oh I am so sorry you are not going to blog daily. Of course, we understand. Your blog is so full of life and gives a lift. I reconnected with you and your sweet parents through your blog. So fun seeing you and your Mom a few weeks ago too. Take a break, focus on your priorities and come back soon. Meanwhile, we'll miss you terribly.
Your Americus fan Leila
Hopsy, I am not a frequent commenter but have been an avid reader of yours since almost the beginning. Go with what your heart, mind and God are saying and do something for you! I have enjoyed all your posts- from the lighthearted ones on fashion, to highlights of your travels, to those of a weightier subject, like the one you did earlier this year about just being you. I will miss your stories and pictures but wish you all the best. xo xo, Whitney
I found your blog several years ago and have enjoyed reading your inspiring posts. My best to you in all of your endeavors!
Congratulations on doing what's best for you! Enjoy smelling the roses!
Thanks for all of the fun posts you've written!
I hope you dont completely leave blogging...I have enjoyed your posts for a while now.
I know what you mean tho...I find too many people treat their blog like it's a magazine or something and they have some sort of obligation to their readers. A blog should be a journal of your life and the things you want to record for yourself. Yes it's a connection to so many people and things but ultimately it should be what you want it to be.
Hopefully you get great inspiration and enjoy your time off!
Well dear lady, I hope you find all that you are looking for in life. I have truly enjoyed your blog, PiNk swaps, and you as a spunky gal! You will be missed, but LiFe is worth living.....go gettem girly!
Love and Hugs,
Mrs. Kindergarten...aka...Madame Spoiled
Your blog was the very first blog that I started to read a few short years ago. I have enjoyed your fun and preppy posts.
Bye for now....and good luck !
Your blog was the first "preppy" blog I ever stumbled upon and definitely an inspiration for me to start my own blog. Best of luck, Hopsy, I've enjoyed following your life for the past few years!
Will miss the blog doll, but glad you're sticking around on Twitter! Enjoy the break! xx
I know this was a hard decision but good for you for taking care to know when to take a break! I took a break from FB for Lent and it was amazing! Got back on after Easter only to find myself immediately wrapped back up in it again 24/7! Social Media is great but it can definitely take over and rule your world! And you are so right, God has called us to be so much more than glued to the computer all the time! Best Wishes! Can't say you won't be missed, you have become such a part of so many lives! And just love ALL of your posts, finds and fun living! I do hope you will post from time to time but also understand if you don't! Take care of yourself Hopsy and may your adventures continue without the pressure of blogging!
I have enjoyed reading your postings from the beginning.
I do understand that you must do what is best for you.
Each person grows in different ways and you have helped me -- Thank you so much for your postings.
All the best for whatever comes your way.
Maureen
Hopsy, I've read from the beginning and have really enjoyed getting a peek into your pink and green life. Through you I've dressed better, found great products, and learned a lot about our country and the world (France and India for example). You will be missed, but I wish you the very best! Have fun!
By the way - I hope you will leave the blog live! I use it for reference a lot for parties, gift ideas, and recipes!
hi! I have been reading for about 2 months and your blog is one of my favorites! must daily reads! I have been tempted to take a break as well, just to see what happens and put everything else in order. But I just can't, I will pray tonight and see what God wants me to do. Hope the best to you! if coming back is the best to you that will be great! :)
Every once in a while I find you have to stop, take a breath, and reevaluate--it sounds you are doing just that! I hope you will continue to share the occasional post from time to time; I'll definitely miss your daily updates.
Your blog was the first one I read, and I will truly miss your lovely pink and green updates! I have been pondering on the same thing, and will have to do some more praying on it. Until the next post, best of luck in Dallas! XO
I totally respect your decision, even though I sure will miss you! You were seriously the one who inspired me to begin blogging, the first blog that I started reading on a regular basis. You're amazing, Helen, and I really look up to you!
Hopsy, you have motivated me (and so many others I'm sure!) in so many ways in this blogging world. You will surely be missed, but I am glad you came to this decision if it is the best one for you. Looking forward to the rest of your posts for May and hope I can continue to catch up with you on Twitter! Sending big hugs and best wishes your way. xoxoxo
Hopsy, I will miss your cute blog so much. Hopefully, you will come back very soon. Like many others that have commented, yours was one of the first that I started reading and it is just so fun. You are such a sweet person, enjoy your break!! xo kristin
p.s. please come to Miami so I can meet you in person!
The same thing happened to me about a year ago, but I did not realize it until I had just not posted in a while. Enjoy life. Our time here is short and eternity will be so much sweeter! I have learned "the art of saying no" this year and it feels so nice!
As a fellow Dallasite (who seems to run in the same social circles as you!) I have just enjoyed your blog to pieces, but I understand completely! I stopped writing my own blog last year for the same reason. My life is my life... My blog is not. I sometimes feel sorry for those that live online! How many opportunities to help others they are missing out on to focus on something so arbitrary! Kudos to you for not falling victim to the Internet and having the right mind to focus on YOU! Best of luck!
You've given a lot to your readers (esp this one, one who doesn't leave comments to give any signal at all of appreciation or basic acknowledgement). Thank you. I hope you'll find your break refreshing that that it'll inspire you to live your life with even more zest, which I've always admired in you.
Rather odd to hear from a stranger but I will miss you! Your posts are simply happy to me. They are fun, positive, full of great ideas. I do not get how people let blogs and facebook become their lives - so silly and it ruins it for the rest of us. I hope you pop back soon! XO JDM
Well I have to say, this makes me really sad. I only just found you and I love coming here for my dose of preppy. I don't follow all of the preppy pink craziness on blogs too much but yours is a place I like to visit because you're classic and genuine and your preppiness is a way of life and not a trendy phase you're in. I know we don't know each other so it seems kind of odd to say, but, I really do wish you the best of luck! I know you will succeed in anything you attempt right now! xoxox
Dear dear Hopsy,
As Abilene and Minny said to Miss Skeeter...it's time to go find your life. Thank you for all your given us...here's hoping we'll see you again. The world is waiting for you.
Warmly, Kathleen
As 10-years your senior, and a sahm of 2 under 5, I've enjoyed "living vicariously" through you and other seemingly carefree career girls. This comes of course at a cost - of me neglecting matters at home and real life. I can only imagine the time it takes for you to create a post from idea to putting it up. You have so much to offer - I have a good feeling about your decision. Thanks for the lovely time-suck - really :)
I completely understand, Hopsy. You have shared so much with us over the years and I really do think of you as a friend :)
You are an amazing young woman and you have a wonderful life to live.
Another chapter of your life is calling - go answer it. Thank you for inspiring us daily with your fabulous style, Christian beliefs and strong character.
I was sad when your Mom stopped blogging, but I understood that, too.
Take care of yourself beautiful and be sure to enjoy all that life has to offer - away from a computer screen!
With much love,
Wendy
Dear Hopsy: I've greatly enjoyed your blog, your creativity, youthful enthusiasms, grace under pressure and energetic pursuits. Wishing you the best. You are a very classy young woman and I hope you find someone important with whom to share your life! As far as I can see, that is the only element missing from a very full and blessed life. Continue to go with God. Cyndi
I will miss your blog a lot :) It has really been fun and a nice uplifting break for me over the past few years.
I am proud of you for making the hard decision.
You do seem to have a heart for service and for appreciated beauty, so I hope you find a way to do that that is fulfilling & not draining & that you continue to seek God's path for your life!
~ best to you!
Hopsy, What a well written and heartfelt post. I have enjoyed your blog tremendously. Thank you for the hours of enjoyment you have provided! I wish you all the best. You are smart to take a break and "stop to smell the flowers"! I hope you will blog again in the near future!
I too am sad to read this. I've always loved your blog because you're a fellow Kappa sister, and also because I have yet to meet anyone who loves the Kentucky Derby as much as I do. So, yeah, I've been reading for years. I've learned about so many great things, like awesome small businesses all because of you. I'm mad at you for introducing me to cake balls because they've caused more problems than I can say, but we'll let that one slide. :)
I've also met so many lovely ladies through the swaps. I met Mrs. Cullins one year through a swap, and imagine my surprise when I walked into Founder's Day last fall in Dallas and immediately recognized her. I knew no one, but that familiar face was possible because of YOU.
I know we've never met in person, and I am hoping some day we can. But one thing I've always admired about you - aside from your honesty and sincerity - is how grounded you are.
You've always done what's best for you regardless of what people think. It sets a great example, because life is too short to waste it doing things that don't bring you joy. And when something isn't making you happy any more, or if you feel like it's something you "have to do" rather than something you "choose to do," it's time to re-evaluate it. If it's a brief hiatus, great. If it's permanent, great too.
Blogs change. I just started my new one a few months ago because of my divorce, and I need a place to process my thoughts. But for years prior, my blogs have been epic failures. And that's okay. Wedding blogs become baby blogs, and so on and so on. We all change. Sometimes we outgrow it completely, sometimes we come back. It just depends.
Yes, blogging can be horrible, but you've always had your head on straight, and you've always been true to yourself. So, we're all going to back you in this, even though we'll miss you immensely. I do believe though the connections that come out of this space is a testament to the practice of it. But I agree, it's a part of you. It's not "life."
So, do what you need to do, and I'm hopeful at some point we'll be able to actually chat and get to know each other as the well rounded people we really are. And, as daughters of God.
In the meantime, thanks for creating such a warm, inviting, and entertaining space over the years. I've very much enjoyed reading all of your words, and I wish you nothing but the best in whatever you choose to pursue.
L&L.
While I am sad to hear this, I cannot believe you have been blogging for nearly 4 years. As a reatively new blogger I can't even begin to imagine the time and energy you have poured into making Monograms and Manicures the amazing blog it is today, so thank you Hopsy!
I have always admired you and your blog. I tried blogging myself and I know how time consuming it can be. So much so I found it impossible to continue! I have always been impressed by your posts and how much time you must devote to this blog!! You will be missed dear Hopsy. Thanks for sharing - there have been many times where reading a post brightened my day. Best of luck with all that lies ahead!!! Smiles, Elle :)
Hopsy!
I can't believe this. You were the first blog I read when I found out about this little world. your uplifting, inspirational and happy posts have gotten me through some very tough days. I have told you before. When I was going through the dark days of fertility treatments I would get out of bed and read your blog every morning. It made me remember the happy and bright things around me
Yes blogging can be selfish and really has become quite superficial in a lot of ways. What ever happened to the awards and the tags? And well, the good old sweet things that we used to all say to each other.. and the kind comments.
I commend you for taking this break. As you say in your head line "come with me HFG as I..." Well we have, we have enjoyed your journey and all that you've let us learn and see in your life. Your style and taste are divine. I've purchased more things over the years that you've recommended!
I swear my day will not be the same . this truly marks the end of an era. but I know you will be back. Blessings and love. And come back soon. Love youxox o
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